Learning to Say No When You Usually Say Yes: Everything You Need to Know Explained Simply

You Say Yes Because... That Is What You Were Taught Case Study: The Rev. Vickie Haren You Say Yes Because... You Want to be Liked by All You Say Yes Because... You Do Not Want to Challenge Authority You Say Yes Because... You Feel You Have to Say Yes You Say Yes Because... You Do Not Have the Courage to Say No You Are the No. 1 Priority in Your Life, Learn to Say No You Should Have Your Needs Met No is a Complete Sentence-There is no Need to Explain Further People of All Walks of Life Have Trouble Saying No Breaking through old cultural barriers There is More Room for No's In Today's World Than Ever Before Fear of Rejection Doing whatever it takes, even saying Yes, to belong Express Your Decision with Conviction How Do You Say No to a True Friend? Case Study: Wesley Baker How Can You Prevent Your Feelings From Getting in the Way of Saying No? Contents note continued: Are They Really Your Friends or Are They Just Using You? Saying No to your disconcerting friends Will My Friends Get Their Feelings Hurt if I Say No? Will My Friends Understand Why I Said No? Everyone Is Taken Care Of, But You Saying No to Your Children Guilt Avoiding conflicts Wanting their unconditional love Saying No to Your Spouse Case Study: Susan Parks How About Your Family Outside the Home? Elderly Parents And Siblings "But My Boss Does Not Take No For an Answer" Avoid Getting in Over Your Head Case Study: Martha Schroer Working on Group Projects Learning How to Say No When You Are the Boss "If I Do Not Do It, No One Will" "No One Can Do It As Well as I Can" Saying Yes To Be The Martyr Doing Something Just To Say You Did It Setting Boundaries for Ethical Reasons Living a Balanced Lifestyle of Yeses and No's Case Study: April Colton Motivation and Self-empowerment Contents note continued: Motivated by others Spiritual motivations Motivated by pain Self-empowerment Changes in Your Behavior Mean Adjustment to Those Around You Why people may not be supportive Support Groups Can Help What is Assertiveness? How Can I Become More Assertive? Body Language That Projects Assertiveness Eye contact Distance Posture Handshake How to be Assertive Without Being Perceived as Aggressive It Is All About Attitude Follow Your Intuition, and Say No Say No and Feel Good About It: Saying No Without Guilt Take your time Weigh the pros and cons of the request Prepare yourself Be tactful Effectively Choosing When To Actually Say Yes Negotiating a Yes Living With The Choice You Made And Learning From It Say No and Stick to It When a No Results in Confrontation Take a deep breath Relax Use an even tone of voice Listen Keep your emotions under control Contents note continued: Acknowledge the other party's emotions Clarify your intentions Find a common ground Moving forward Propose An Alternative Practice Makes Perfect The Feeling of Freedom When You Learn to Say No Progress Record How to Say No, in a Nutshell Quick No Answers to Keep Handy.